Hey LDS Singles, What Features Would You Like to See on LDSdates.com

Hey all you LDS Singles out there, we are here to help, and we’ve been looking at the site lately and making some improvements.  Maybe you’ve noticed?

While we were analyzing what we will work on next, we thought – Let’s ask those who use the site, they should have some great ideas.  So go ahead and give us your best advice on how to improve the site, or tell us what you like about it, or things you would like to see in the future.  While we can’t make any promises, a great suggestion can create some positive improvements.  Thanks for your help!


Reply with your tips, comments, or suggestions!

Saving and Rating My Favorite LDS Singles Profiles

Have you ever kept a list of people whom you have met?  not just a list of friends, but a list of those interesting singles whom you would like to get to know better and possibly date?  Perhaps you even kept notes about some of your interactions with other LDS singles?   Maybe you aren’t that methodical and you just kept mental notes or thought about which of your single friends presented the best dating opportunity?

One of the neat things about LDSdates.com is that it allows you to mark favorite singles profiles and make private notes about them and private ratings.   You can easily view your ratings and notes from your favorite profiles page.

To add another single to your list of favorite LDS singles, click the “Add as Favorite” link on the singles profile page you are viewing – you  will then be given the opportunity to rate the profile and make some comments.  You can come back later and update these ratings and comments from the profile page or your favorite profiles page as needed.

As you are viewing LDS singles profiles on LDSdates.com try out the favorite profiles feature and let us know what you think.

Meeting LDS Singles with Common Interests

Dating is better when you share common interests

Perhaps you have done this. You are on a date with someone you were excited to go out with, or perhaps it was a blind date. It doesn’t take too long but the conversation turns stale and as you bring up almost every one of you hobbies and favorite passtimes, you discover you have nothing in common. So you start to talk about the weather or some other trivial topic rather than sit the date out in silence.  It’s important to have some common interests with those that you spend time with, especially those you date and could potentially marry.

LDS Singles Common Interests on LDSdates.com

LDSdates.com allows singles to choose from a large selection of interests and associate them with your profile.  When you view other single’s profiles, you can see what their interests are by looking at the interests tab.  To make it easier to identify common interests, interests you have in common with the lds singles you are viewing are highlighted.

LDS singles common interests are highlighted

LDS Singles Common Interests are Highlighted

To see your matched common interests with other LDS singles, both you and those users whose profiles you are viewing will need to have selected their interests.  Your interest can easily select your interests by updating your account.  With this feature on LDSdates.com you feel sure you will have something to talk about with other LDS Singles you find.


Meet LDS Singles Through Social Media and LDS Singles Sites

Back in the early days of the internet, having a website was a big thing.  LDS Singles websites came and went and some were more successful than others. Recent trends have seen many new approaches to helping singles meet one another through new social media tools for singles in addition to the standard dating website.  Here we describe some of our social media sites.  Like, Follow and use these sites along with LDSdates.com as you look for new ways to meet LDS Singles.

LDSdates.com – Dating Website for LDS Singles
Our dating website, LDSdates.com has come a long way over the years since we first started.  Several new features have been added with several upgrades over the years.  Click here to go to the website:  http://www.ldsdates.com/

LDS Singles on Twitter
LDS Singles have lots to say, and we have found many interesting people on twitter, follow us at https://twitter.com/ldsdates to see what we are up to and what we have to say.  Some of our tweets have been humorous, some spiritual and some about LDS Singles of course.

LDS Singles on Facebook
We have had an LDSdates facebook page for quite some time and in our last update to LDSdates.com, we integrated the facebook like buttons in the site more extensively. You can visit our facebook page at  https://www.facebook.com/LDSdates – and don’t forget to like us.

LDS Singles on Pinterest
This is one of our newest integrations with social media, and we are still getting the feel for Pinterest.  Follow us on Pinterest here: https://www.pinterest.com/ldsdates/

As you use our site and visit our social media pages, use the social media tools provided to tell others about LDSdates.com by liking and following our pages.


Are You a Dateable LDS Single?

Do you think you are a dateable LDS single?  The answer to such a question may just depend on the decisions you make in your social life.  Elder Quentin L. Cook, in his talk titled Choose Wisely in the October 2014 General Conference Priesthood Session reminded us how President Thomas S. Monson “often taught that decisions determine destiny”.  He then spoke the danger of failing to accomplish significant personal rights of passage in our lives through our rationalizations, poor decisions and lack of commitment.  He says “When we allow rationalizations to prevent us from temple endowments, worthy missions, and temple marriage, they are particularly harmful. It is heartbreaking when we profess belief in these goals yet neglect the everyday conduct required to achieve them.”

Speaking specifically on dating and marriage, Elder Cook went on to say:

Some young people profess their goal is to be married in the temple but do not date temple-worthy individuals. To be honest, some don’t even date, period! You single men, the longer you remain single after an appropriate age and maturity, the more comfortable you can become. But the more uncomfortable you ought to become! Please get “anxiously engaged”6 in spiritual and social activities compatible with your goal of a temple marriage.

Some postpone marriage until education is complete and a job obtained. While widely accepted in the world, this reasoning does not demonstrate faith, does not comply with counsel of modern prophets, and is not compatible with sound doctrine.

As I listened to this inspired talk, I recalled a post I had written earlier about making yourself available for dating.  It is unfortunate, but appears to be the case that many LDS singles inadvertantly. or perhaps purposefully, by their actions make dating them difficult, or even becoming acquanted with them.  Of course there are those who do not attend church or LDS singles activities at all, these people are nearly unavailable and may be completely excluding themselves from the social circles which could be a a source of the most valuable and enduring relationships available.

There are others though; the ones who come, but just not enough; that show up late or leave early; that socialize, but never ask.  Those that have an ever-pressing something that causes all conversations to be cut short, before they can get to know someone or truely become friends with someone.  Perhaps these people should learn to linger and socialize more, even if it is awkward – shift their priorities from whatever it is that pulls them away to something else or something new, to reaping the full benefit presented by the present opportunities.  This seems reminicient of the old adage a bird in the hand is better than two in the bush.

So do these little decisions really matter?  Can attending a certain meeting or activity be that important to your social life?  Can lingering longer at some activity benefit you in remarkable ways?  Any one of these in and of itself may not make much of a difference, but by consistantly doing the right things and making ourselves available, the Lord can bless us with the blessings we desire.  Elder Cook said “it is heartbreaking when we profess belief in these goals yet neglect the everyday conduct required to achieve them”.  President Thomas S. Monson taught that “decisions determine destiny”.  So are you doing the things that make you dateable?


New Features for LDS Singles Profiles on LDSdates.com

Perhaps you have noticed, but there have been some nice changes to LDS Singles profiles on LDSdates.com in the past months.   These recent updates make the site more appealing and easier to use.

Recent updates include an improved theme,  which now includes a notification bar which alerts you to new messages, flirts or friend requests from other LDS singles.  A redesigned page of date ideas for LDS singles where you can submit your own ideas and read the ideas of other single mormons. In the next few months additional changes will be coming including  profile viewing history.

LDSdates.com is an singles personals service for single mormons.  You can meet LDS singles, find LDS activites, get LDS date ideas and more for free at LDSdates.com

Date Ideas for LDS Singles Update

LDSdates.com has recently revised the date ideas section of the website.  Recent updates have brought a variety of improvements to the site making it easier and more exciting to find LDS singles.

The latest update was to the date ideas page. This update will allow registered members to submit their own date ideas, see date ideas submitted by other LDS singles on the site and download a list of several date ideas.  Log in to get full access to all of the date ideas on ldsdates.com and share your own great date ideas with other lds singles.

LDSdates.com is an online personals service for single latter-day saints.  You can meet LDS singles, find LDS activites, get date ideas and more for free at LDSdates.com



Searching for the One – Talks for LDS Singles

Throughout my dating life I have heard various reasons why people had broken off a dating relationship, some were good reasons, some were not so good.  One of the peculiarities of dating today and perhaps in every era is the search for the person who was “meant for me”, or ‘the one‘, a soul mate – that elusive someone special who was meant to be with me from the moment we were born, or in the LDS faith, from before the foundation of the world.   Hence one of the oft cited reasons for breakups happens to be, “I didn’t feel he (or she) was the One”.   Many times when this statement is given as a reason for a breakup, there is no more discusson and the rationale behind the decision stops there – it is just the way it is.   Could someone really get an answer from the spirit telling them this particular person they have been dating is not the one and only person for whom they have been fore-ordained? Perhaps; but more often, this would not be the case.

In my dating life, I realized after a while that the idea of a “One” for me was a fallacy, and I suspect it is largely that way for almost everyone else on the planet.  It is true there was only one Adam for one Eve, one Issac for Rebecca, The daughters of Ishmael for the sons of Lehi, and perhaps the same situation exists for many others, but for the majority of people, LDS singles included, there are likely several ones that could become the One you marry, or in other words you have the luxury of choosing from among many faithful LDS singles which ones meet your standards and share your same values and goals.  President Spencer W. Kimball stated:

“Soul mates” are fiction and an illusion; and while every young man and young woman will seek with all diligence and prayerfulness to find a mate with whom life can be most compatible and beautiful, yet it is certain that almost any good man and any good woman can have happiness and a successful marriage if both are willing to pay the price. [“Marriage and Divorce,” in Speeches of the Year, 1976 (Provo, Utah: Brigham Young University, 1977), 146]

So what is it that we should be looking for in a person whom we are dating? What constitutes a good man or good woman and what is the price they have to be willing to pay?  In a General Conference address President Ezra Taft Benson reminded us that we are not looking for perfection and told us what the important qualities are that we should be looking for in those we date:

Now, brethren, do not expect perfection in your choice of a mate. Do not be so particular that you overlook her most important qualities of having a strong testimony, living the principles of the gospel, loving home, wanting to be a mother in Zion, and supporting you in your priesthood responsibilities. [“To The Single Adult Brethren of the Church”, General Conference, April 1988]

In your search for an eternal companion, we are counseled to be patient and get to know the person and their qualities.  Don’t expect perfection or jump ship when you discover they are human (ie: have flaws).  Elder Richard G. Scott counseled:

I suggest that you not ignore many possible candidates who are still developing these attributes, seeking the one who is perfected in them. You will likely not find that perfect person, and if you did, there would certainly be no interest in you. These attributes are best polished together as husband and wife. [“Receive the Temple Blessings,” Ensign, May 1999, 26]

I never really agreed with the “One for me” or “Soul Mate” idea myself but I did have to learn some things.  As you continue your search, remember you are not looking for perfection, but someone with whom you can work towards perfection. Work hard, do the right things and be patient.

Suggested Reading:

The Right Person, the Right Place, the Right Time, Thomas B. Holman
August 01, 2000 BYU devotional
To The Single Adult Brethren of the Church,  Ezra Taft Benson
April 1988, General Conference,

Becoming the One, Talks for LDS Singles

One of the more memorable talks I have heard about being single, dating and marriage was given several years ago in a Latter-day Saint singles ward. The basic idea of the talk was that you need to become the type of person you want to marry.  At the time it seemed insightful, if not logical, yet it was apparant that this fact is commonly overlooked by many singles; singles who are often frustrated with dating ups and downs and consumed in the challenges of every day life and social activities.

Thinking about that talk now many years later, I realize how profound and far reaching its truths really were.  If we want the beatiful family life full of the Lords blessings with a truly wonderful spouse, what are we doing now to attract that kind of spouse who desires those same things?  If you want the kind of spouse that honors their covenants, makes a great parent, stays true to the gospel of Jesus Christ and will stick with you through whatever may come – what traits and qualities are you learning and developing in yourself to make you appealing to, and in truth, that very same kind of person.  Surely a person like that would not be looking for someone who does not possess those same qualities.

However, it doesn’t take perfect people to make a good marriage, (there aren’t any perfect people).  It’s really about being honest with ourselves and those we are dating – learing who we are and what it is that we really want, then fostering those very same traits within ourselves through our thoughts, words and actions.  In short, if you want to find someone with whom you will be a match made in heaven (or the temple), will they be able to find you at church on Sunday or at some other wholesome activity?  Would they be turned away by your behavior, dress, lifestyle or associations?

The choices we make now in how we act, live, and grow ourselves as LDS Singles have huge implications on our future and happiness.   Being married to someone for eternity whom we trust and with whom we share the same values helps make the rough places smooth and helps bring a fullness of joy.  I still remember the talk in and LDS singles ward from many years ago, because of that profound message it contained: Be the type of person whom the person we are looking for wants.


Ideas for LDSdates.com

It’s been a while since I’ve posted an update for LDSdates.com blog but lately I’ve been trying to think of some different ideas and really neat features that singles would like to see when they visit this site. If you are a regular visitor or even a guest go ahead and reply to this post with some ideas of what you think would make this site much better.

Thank you.  Please also check out our polls, we will post a poll there regarding this as well.